If you want to overcome any obstacle that is standing in your way, you first must take a look within yourself. Character defects are flaws that we all have, even when we do not intend to have them. Some of the most common character defects that people have include:
- False Pride
- Malicious Intents
- Blaming Others
- Not Accepting Responsibility for your own Actions
- Believing that you know how other people think and feel
- Manipulative Behavior
Keep in mind that these are only some of the most commonly experienced character defects that people display. It is far from a complete list and you may find yourself with many others similar to those listed above.
In order to live mentally and emotionally healthy these character defects should be recognized. Through the process of working the twelve steps of recovery, you will be expected to list your character defects. It will not be difficult to spot them because they are revealed in your inventory in step four. Your sponsor may ask you to examine how these defects have worked for you in the past, or to list what the opposite of a defect may be. When you are clear about which defects are causing you difficulty in your life, you can ask your higher power to remove them. Even though you have asked your higher power to remove those defects, they are not going to disappear. Some will leave rather quickly and some will take a long time to leave.
Changing character defects isn’t the easiest thing in this world that you will do. It will take time, and isn’t something that can even be expected to happen overnight or within a few days or weeks even. Through the process of working the 12 steps, prayer, turning your life over to your higher power, and meditation, you can begin to change those things about you that you don’t like. Just keep in mind that it may take some time for some of your defects to be removed. It is about progress. This process will be ongoing throughout your recovery.
Do not be afraid to look at your character defects. Many of them have served you before you came into recovery. Some of them were coping skills that kept you alive long enough to find addiction recovery. You are no worse or not better than anyone else.